What is the purpose of parenting and who is affected?
-Our ultimate purpose in parenting is to become like our Heavenly Father.
-Parenting affects children's learning development.
- Both the parents and children learn to love.
-Parenting provides children with prepatory experiences.
-Children lean to be skilled workers and contribute to the overall family.
-Helps with psychological skills.
Patterns of Parenting:
1.) Authoritarian: A lot of direction but not much choice.
2.) Authoritative: Be active instead of re-active (proactive).
3.) Permissive: That permits . . . allowing freedom . . .lenient.
There are several values parents can teach children:
1.) Character
2.) Courage: Do the right thing even if it's against others views. To give heart/strengthen the heart.
3.) Responsability: The ability to respond to opportunities/challenges.
4.) Cooperation: To work together.
5.) Respect: To hold an esteem.
Who owns the problem? (Who's affected/ concerned) Parents or the children?
How we can handle day-to-day problems:
(Parents)
-Make a polite request when a problem arises. (i.e."Could you please help me pick up your toys?" or "Hey! Thanks for all your help today! Give me five!") This is a sign of respect for one another.
-Firm reminder
-Use logical consequences.
(Children)
-Allow for natural consequences. It helps children develop and learn.
-There are three instances when natural consequences should be regulated:
1.) the situation is too dangerous.
2.) Too far in the future.
3.) Don't let the teaching of natural consequences affect someone else.
Random Thoughts:
-Parents are to provide encouragement. Always provide support.
-Notice children's efforts rather than focus on their failures.
-Pay close attention to the children's feedback.
- Rather than focus on misbehavior, focus on needs.
-Contact helps with belonging. If contact isn't met, people seek for undue attention.
"You can never get enough of what you don't need, because what you don't need can never be satisfying". (Leaves people to do outlandish things).
